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Brandy's avatar

The ONLY place I ever buy my bras & sports bras, both SEXY and functional is Lane Bryant/ Cacique. Different styles, flirty colors, cotton/satin, you name it they have it. Best of all they run great sales with a huge variety.

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Laura's avatar

Melissa,

You live in my world. I live in yours. My bras are your bras and your bras are my bras (to the tune of "The More We Get Together," ala girl scout days). I am a 44 H. Yes, that is correct, 44 H. I am 5' 3" and 179 lbs. I don't even have to tell you about the bra basket in my dresser that has literally 13 bras, all of them so uncomfortable that I have to rotate so that the rashes from one can heal whilst new rashes form from the next in line. This situation is NO JOKE!

You and I are clearly not the only women in the world with very large breasts. If men had large breasts like ours, there would be federally funded research and a full time "Bra Officer General" at the white house in charge of bra research, development and distribution. And all bras (at least those over a 36C) would be covered by medical insurance. (And what an outrageous insult that they are not!!!)

In fact, the reason there are no solid, strong, ugly, strong, functional, pain-relieving bras out there is precisely because the breasts they contain belong to women. Women with big boobs. Ooooooh, yeah... women with big boobs (the thoughts generated and put on rewind and replay by heterosexual men everywhere). Why on earth would men want to help fund, create, support (no pun intended) or otherwise encourage functional, un-sexy bras that might prevent our breasts from, well, jiggling as we walk?

Fast-forward after 30 years of suffering- I am scheduled for a breast reduction surgery in two weeks. I will accept my congratulations off the air!!

P.S. When I went in for my consultation with the plastic surgeon for my surgery (covered by medical insurance because the weight is causing severe neck and back issues, pain, rashes and fungi), after standing before him for inspection in all my naked glory with sagging breasts and stomach pouches fully exposed, he ended the appointment by saying, "don't you worry. Your breast will be pretty and perky in no time!" (I just decided to abandon my non-violent principals...)

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Melissa Radke's avatar

I'd like to nominate you for Bra Officer General!

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Deb Miracle's avatar

Me too - I feel the pain from both of you!

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Pamela's avatar

Omg I thought I thought I was the only one. Thank you Jesus I am not. I am struggling over here with the one bra situation. This is bad and I probably shouldn’t tell but I had to give my adult son a ride to his truck the other day with no bra! And listen it’s not like when I bust out the DD’s that it’s a secret I have no bra on. Nope gravity has not been kind after nursing 6 kids. I tried to bundle up to make it less noticeable but I don’t think it worked. Oh and if you are curious as to why I didn’t have one on, because my teenage daughter thought she was doing me a favor by throwing the ONE bra in the washing machine and not telling me! I think she did it on purpose. Please let us know when you find said unicorn. Sign, desperate mom in NC who’s son will probably never ask for a ride again!

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Melissa Radke's avatar

Ok, this made me laugh! Like REALLY laugh. One bra ladies unite!

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Corey's avatar

Ruby Ribbon!

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Amy Weed's avatar

PREACH!!! The struggle is real. I’m about to go ‘70s style and burn them all!

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Melody's avatar

Lane Bryant is my go to for bras. I’m partial to the Balconette that’s lightly lined. It’s nice and smooth for t-shirts and also for smoothing your back. Good luck!

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Monica Mirelez's avatar

LANE BRYANT!! And, they have matching undies!! I wear a size 46DDD....And, I love them!! Mostly are printed & are PRETTY!!!!

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kristin romell's avatar

ThirdLove bras!

https://www.thirdlove.com/

Bigger than the state of Mississippi and strong like ox.

Seriously, I’m a 44D and they’re easy to work with to exchange fir a different size.

Lots of styles- even cute ones in big sizes.

You’re welcome 😍😎

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Melissa Radke's avatar

We're on a different level when the words we use to describe our bra is "strong like ox!" I should use that terminology on my "Bra Wish List!" :)

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kristin romell's avatar

Torrid and Lane Bryant are great too!

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Mommyof3's avatar

I feel your pain!! I find one I love and wear

To death LOL. I’m a big fan of Torrids WHITE 360° BACK

SMOOTHING™M LIGHTLY

LINED T-SHIRT BRA

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mickie Imberi's avatar

Maybe try this gal, she is a small town Montana bra maker!

https://enell.com/

https://youtu.be/xJDNHoFmeLs

Disclaimer....I got my dad's chest not my mammas!!

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Holly Conrad's avatar

You need to be fitted. Like others have said, Cacique is the bomb for big boobed girls. Have them measure you and bri g you things in the correct size. Makes such a difference!

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Brittany's avatar

I have the opposite problem! I wear a 12 pants but am a AA cup size. The last lady who measured me for a bra laughed. Literally nothing there. I’ve never been able to find the right size. All of mine have a 1-2” gap between the cup and my actual chest! I can’t wear v neck shirts because the bra holds the shirt out too far and you can see EVERYTHING! So it’s usually sports bras for me. I would just go without but after nursing 3 kids, what is still there is like 2 tiny saggy ski jumps that embarrasses my teenagers. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Brenda Nutter's avatar

I feel your pain. I would LOVE to go without underwires, but it just ain't pretty! I generally get my 42F bras from Lane Bryant. My biggest question though: WHY CAN'T I GET A BRA WITH STRAPS THAT STAY ON MY SHOULDERS?!?!?! I am constantly adjusting them. (I'm convinced my arthritis in my thumbs is from a combination of THAT& scrolling on my phone more than I probably should.)

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Corinne Armstead's avatar

As you know us big breasted women can’t buy online cause that’s such a waste of money!!! They will never fit. With that being said i absolutely love Lane Bryant bras. Not all of them mind you. Cause this girl don’t need no padded bra! They are very sturdy and last a long time. I don’t want a sports bra because I don’t want a Uni-Boob! I’m old school and want lift by a underwire and width for my back boobs. I have not been disappointed by what bought from them. I recommend checking them out. And no I didn’t let anyone “fit” me for one. I did it myself. Good luck and let us know if you find the perfect “Over The Shoulder Boulder Holder!” Love ya girl!

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Julie's avatar

Best bra ever! And I'm a 44H, so my bra has to do a lot of work!!!

https://www.dillards.com/p/wacoal-awareness-full-busted-floral-underwire-bra/601395

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Kelly Martin's avatar

Omg. I have no bra problems. I’m sorry to say, I just laughed so hard I cried and sent it to all my friends with no bra problems. But I absolutely feel for you and hope you find a perfect one. Maybe in a dusty pink too!! Gettin’ fancy!!!

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Melissa Wright's avatar

Shut up! 😂

Sincerely,

Big Boobs, No Butt 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

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Patty's avatar

Love, Love Love you and your ability to make me feel like you are in my head spilling all my secrets!!! Jesus take the wheel!!! Not one to tell ANYONE what to do at all.....just sharing something I saw...check this out...(WELL I CAN'T POST A PIC!) There is a "reality" show on that has these 2 ladies that have a legit business. They specialize in BIGGER BOOBS!! They even have a "BOOB BIB!!!"..they are called "BIBBIES". OMG, I just can't!! IF, IF you want to look at their website and get a glance at some of their beautiful items it is liviraelingerie.com. They also do virtual appointments!! Plus for the Plus size girls! Enjoy you, don't change for anything!! Love ya...mean it...Blessings!!!

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