I am almost 70 years old so my view might be outdated. I have been in your friends shoes. I felt shock, fear, anger, and yes excitement for that first grandbaby. Her son's life is not over just hitting a bump in the road. She needs to sit down with him and discuss his plans. Is he with the mother of his child now? What are her plans after the baby? What are his options and future plans? He needs to bring her to meet his family because like it or not you all are now linked together. The wisest woman I ever knew (I called her mom) told me when I was unmarried, pregnant and scared to always remember "This could be so much worse! You could have contracted a fatal disease, have been raped or beaten. Instead we are getting a BABY! a new life to love". Be there for your son, listen to him, offer advice if asked, consider changing your future plans if they need a place to live, be firm with your rules and above all let God guide you as you prepare for the next stage of life.
Taking my son to therapy to help him with managing emotions because I’m exhausted from trying to teach him. I don’t want to feel like a failure, or not being there for my son, but I can’t do it anymore.
Oh, lady...the things I would weep through telling you...it's definitely a rains-came-winds-blew season. Thank you for being so genuine and Spirit led in the timing of your writing 🫶🏻
I had to move my son and his family back in with us, do to the home they were living in had a gas leak, black mold , and electrical issues. I can say it hasn't been easy do to his gf, she has been my biggest challenge in a long time. I have been talking to the lord, multiple times a day for guidance in this. I know he has my back always. The trees are showing us how easy it is to let go, and I like the leaves let go of all that I need too.
Good stuff… REAL good stuff. I need to make more lunch dates. My family’s trials and difficulties are important, and do come first. However, in the sometimes exhaustion of being there for them and the overwhelmingness of it all, I have neglected having “lunch dates” with my friends. That’s unfair to them and to me. Thank you.
I’ve been in the middle of a storm for a while. I’m caregiving to my parents- my Dad has Alzheimer’s and my mom has multiple health problems especially heart issues with recently undergoing pacemaker surgery. My own health issues this year alone have been difficult -a rare autoimmune disease affecting my eyes which have flared several times this year; early summer surgery to remove a lymph node that for over a month they thought to be cancer but turned out to be a rare immune response in my lymph node; a heel spur and plantar fasciitis that has been super painful, almost debilitating this year; the stress of trying to balance family life with caregiving. I sometimes feel like I’m not a good friend because my life is so heavy right now. I have some great friends and family but I know they get tired of hearing about my burdens. I am thankful that the Lord hears me and my firm foundation is in Him. He is good every step of the way. My hope rests in His safe hands. ❤️🙏🏼
I am almost 70 years old so my view might be outdated. I have been in your friends shoes. I felt shock, fear, anger, and yes excitement for that first grandbaby. Her son's life is not over just hitting a bump in the road. She needs to sit down with him and discuss his plans. Is he with the mother of his child now? What are her plans after the baby? What are his options and future plans? He needs to bring her to meet his family because like it or not you all are now linked together. The wisest woman I ever knew (I called her mom) told me when I was unmarried, pregnant and scared to always remember "This could be so much worse! You could have contracted a fatal disease, have been raped or beaten. Instead we are getting a BABY! a new life to love". Be there for your son, listen to him, offer advice if asked, consider changing your future plans if they need a place to live, be firm with your rules and above all let God guide you as you prepare for the next stage of life.
I worry so much about my marriage. I look at other people's marriages and I want mine to be like that.
Taking my son to therapy to help him with managing emotions because I’m exhausted from trying to teach him. I don’t want to feel like a failure, or not being there for my son, but I can’t do it anymore.
Oh, lady...the things I would weep through telling you...it's definitely a rains-came-winds-blew season. Thank you for being so genuine and Spirit led in the timing of your writing 🫶🏻
I had to move my son and his family back in with us, do to the home they were living in had a gas leak, black mold , and electrical issues. I can say it hasn't been easy do to his gf, she has been my biggest challenge in a long time. I have been talking to the lord, multiple times a day for guidance in this. I know he has my back always. The trees are showing us how easy it is to let go, and I like the leaves let go of all that I need too.
Good stuff… REAL good stuff. I need to make more lunch dates. My family’s trials and difficulties are important, and do come first. However, in the sometimes exhaustion of being there for them and the overwhelmingness of it all, I have neglected having “lunch dates” with my friends. That’s unfair to them and to me. Thank you.
I’ve been in the middle of a storm for a while. I’m caregiving to my parents- my Dad has Alzheimer’s and my mom has multiple health problems especially heart issues with recently undergoing pacemaker surgery. My own health issues this year alone have been difficult -a rare autoimmune disease affecting my eyes which have flared several times this year; early summer surgery to remove a lymph node that for over a month they thought to be cancer but turned out to be a rare immune response in my lymph node; a heel spur and plantar fasciitis that has been super painful, almost debilitating this year; the stress of trying to balance family life with caregiving. I sometimes feel like I’m not a good friend because my life is so heavy right now. I have some great friends and family but I know they get tired of hearing about my burdens. I am thankful that the Lord hears me and my firm foundation is in Him. He is good every step of the way. My hope rests in His safe hands. ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you Melissa! I needed to hear this today!
I love reading your deep ‘things’ & I totally love your ‘Melissa’ things❣️