Last week one of the members in the Radke Family Membership Group (SHOUT OUT TO YOU BUNCH OF DINGDONGS!! I LOVE YOU!) posted a question for me. It was a good question, but I didn’t answer it. Wanna know why? Because the question is one that has haunted me from the moment, I began walking this health journey out. I didn’t just dread the question; I dreaded the work it would take to navigate this question.
I can 1000% relate to this. 2 years ago I lost 100 lbs, I have gained back 30 lbs. it is making me crazy!! And to be more transparent I have at least another 100 or more pounds to go.
When I lost that weight I made myself eat like a skinny person. One of my tips I found on line is start by cutting it all in half and boxing it up to go before you take a single bite. Then eat slow, with purpose and stop when you are full. Do not feel guilt if you leave 1/2 of the 1/2 there, it’s about your success and self love. This was such a hard concept for me to invest in but it paid off.
I am continually failing myself this time but I keep getting up everyday and starting again. So thank you to everyone sharing their success, struggles, all of it helps remind me we are in this together. #iamfat #iwanttobeskinny
I’d love to go more in-depth too! The last couple of time we’ve went to my in-laws house, we haven’t shared a meal 🤯🤯 Growing up, food was the center of all get togethers, celebrations, shared time together. Trying to get out of the mindset is so hard, but freeing.
I’ve been trying to plan ahead my meals, but today for lunch - plan A and plan b didn’t work out so I grab fast food on my way back to work. Old habits are so hard to break! But part of what I’m learning is one bad meal isn’t a reason to throw in the towel for the rest of the day. Fast food for lunch means a salad and apple for dinner.
Everything you write has been hitting me right in the heart. Thank you for being so open and honest!
I would love to go more in depth too. Food is my comfort, my reward, my counselor, my best friend. It has to stop. I had a rough January and planned to start my New Years Resolutions February. Now February isn't looking too good either.
Thanks for bringing up the hard stuff. I just joined this group and it is already empowering and encouraging me!!! I have found that the discipline of fasting for 14-18 hours (IF) about 4-5 days per week has been amazing with portion control. You literally cannot eat as much at meals and have sooo much energy. Have to stay busy and drink water but wow, it works! Did the Daniel plan years ago with a group and I’m thinking of starting again for the food plan , and adding the intermittent fasting. So happy for you ... the determination and appreciate you sharing your tips and successes!!
Great question! I really don’t have a good answer cause I haven’t done it but I think if I could eat the food plan from The Daniel plan and stay within the fasting window it may work for me. I just KNOW fasting works for my hormone/insulin issues but I’m not a fan of keto, which is what is mostly used with fasting. I feel like I’m constantly trying to figure it out. After years of dieting the struggle continues. But there is hope!!🙌🏼 Have you ever done IF Lori?
I find that the more consistent I am with IF the easier it gets! And then when I do eat I can’t eat as much and tend to make healthier choices! If you research fasting, it’s healing in so many ways! I’m going to get the Daniel book out and refresh myself on the foods!
I've been doing IF for awhile now, but definitely need to be more mindful of the food I eat when my window is open. It has actually given me so much freedom... when my window is open I eat, and when it's closed I don't. If I have a 'grey area' I turn into the QUEEN of justification, and that never ends well! Many of the books I have read on IF recommend LC/HF (Low Carb/High Fat) without going completely keto, and to be honest that worked really well for me and I need to lean back in that direction (and do something about my sugar addiction!) But it seems like a meal plan from the Daniel Fast would be the perfect companion to IF! Also, I'd recommend pushing your 'fasting muscle' to see if you can push yourself a little further each week and build up to some longer fasts which have great benefits too.
I recently just lost 100 pounds. I am the same way. It's all in my mind. I read a book called YOU CAN DROP IT. It is based of a lifestyle called the 2b Mindset. It's all about changing your mindset around food. Changed my life but I do still struggle with the all or nothing part of eating. If I have a cookie one day I feel like I need to make the whole day a "treat day", instead of just having a small treat and moving on with the rest of day. So right now I allow myself a Treat Day here and there. It is something I am working on. I would love to be able to maybe have a bite of something "sinful and still be able to be on track the rest of the day, but I'm not there yet...
Wow! Congratulations! That’s amazing. Sounds like that book has great motivation... it’s definitely the mindset. One bite doesn’t have to ruin the whole day. Just have to get out of our heads🙃
I read a book by Fiona Ferris recently and she talked about not denying yourself foods but adding in things. For example she added - piece of fruit at breakfast until she now eats a bowl of fruit with a side of yogurt instead of a bowl of yogurt with a side of fruit. She added in a side salad at lunch until finally months later her salad was the lunch. I really liked the idea of that mindset. I hate salads so I just try to add a vegetable at every meal and it is just so much more positive than me trying to deny that I really want a few French fries. Tiny mindset shifts are so important to drastic life changes. You have to do what you know works for you and be confident in that. She also discusses how our palates have to change and that takes time.
First off Thankyou again for writing what so many of us feel!! We are in this together a s it’s Very evident from many of us with the same comments and feelings. Food is not a reward blog and this one have been tough for me ... I’ve decided that’s my thing.. yes I have feelings I have been working through but reading these 2 so far are a gut punch!!! Dang Food !! It’s so tough to get away from it, you can’t just never eat food again and get over the addiction, it’s always around , haunting me, calling me, killing me!!!! When you said eat like a skinny person .... I cursed OUT LOuD lol I would love to meet 1 person who has a good relationship with food because where I’m standing currently skinny, fat, we all have food issues / body issues and I wish I could talk to someone who didn’t! I mean I have plenty of friends who don’t have drinking problems and we have been there for our friend who does. It’s easy to hang with us because there’s never drinks and we talk through what not drinking is like. Food, lol nope never have I known one person who thinks good things about food, or normally about food. So if your out there girls please help me! I need to know/ talk to people who have a no issue with food and what that’s looks like, what does that mean. What goes through your brain!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My DOC is food. It has been since childhood. I have lost and gained hundreds of pounds. Last year I had Covid and was hospitalized. I missed work for almost 6 months. Return to work,doing ok. I am even working overtime. October 16 I get weak at work. I’m light headed. See PCP, she’s not sure what’s going on. Bp higher than usual, I am so tired. My heart rate is low, what’s wrong with me. I make it through Saturday. By Sunday morning I can’t move my left leg. I think I’ve probably had a stroke. That’s exactly what’s happened. Off work for four months. Going back 3/1. I’m heavier than I’ve ever been and I’m on 3 blood pressure meds. Time for a change and I stumble upon stretch marks. Count me in Sis!
My DOC is food. It has been since childhood. I have lost and gained hundreds of pounds. Last year I had Covid and was hospitalized. I missed work for almost 6 months. Return to work,doing ok. I am even working overtime. October 16 I get weak at work. I’m light headed. See PCP, she’s not sure what’s going on. Bp higher than usual, I am so tired. My heart rate is low, what’s wrong with me. I make it through Saturday. By Sunday morning I can’t move my left leg. I think I’ve probably had a stroke. Trap that’s exactly what’s happened. Off work for four months. Going back 3/1. I’m heavier than I’ve ever been and I’m on 3 blood pressure meds. Time for a change and I stumble upon stretch marks. Count me in Sis!
I just joined the group tonight! My best friend and I are starting weight watchers next week. Years ago when I stressed I didn’t eat. Well honey that’s long gone! My drug of choice is food! I eat when I’m happy, sad stressed! Everyone says you quit smoking over ten years ago and you had been a smoker for 30 years! You can lose weight! Yes I smoked for 30 years, BUT I’ve eaten all my life!!!! But I have heal problems and it’s either change your habits or your life is going down hill like a roll a coaster with no brakes😱.
I do this every time we go anywhere if we know we are going to eat out. It's best to plan ahead and it's not to say that I don't always make the best choices, but I do try. You can always make good choices and not beat yourself up for the slip ups.
I am so happy that you came into my life Melissa! What you write is actually my new “Bible” if you will...My daughters and I have been through a nonstop nightmare since August of 2019 and every time we think it’s getting better, hear comes another curveball to try and destroy us. From husband/father abandonment leaving us with literally nothing to my MS diagnosis, Diabetes type 2, the whole Covid-19 thing and my most recent diagnosis of breast cancer and having to have a radical bilateral mastectomy. IKR!!?! Listening to you speak and reading what you write actually calms me and centers me. You help me to remember that no matter what happens I am a strong woman and I try to show that lesson to my girls every single day! God Bless you and your journey and I hope I am lucky enough to actually meet you in person some day! 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
Hi Melissa. I live in Oregon. There is a Cheesecake Factory in this town. I can’t find much of a thing to eat there. My humble opinion is that we should drive right by. If more of us do this maybe they will go far away. Like Antarctica! I love fried chicken, too. And in fact anything fried. It triggers me also. Nobody should eat that stuff with any regularity. It will just kill you. And make you dreadfully overweight. In the meantime I don’t ever go there. Even if I have to give up my night out. ❤️🙏 My admiration goes out to you.
Mexican! Where there are chips and dips everywhere???? Mexican is my weakness. Shrimp and Fish tacos are the best thing ever. When I first heard of them, many moons ago, I was like, "gag me"...but then I tried them and OMGosh!!! It's my "almost" favorite Mexican mean. I'm a fajitas, kinda girl. I get chicken and no tortillas. It's like eating the topping off pizza, no crust (I don't do this, though). Speaking of pizza, there is a 2 ingredient crust for pizza, if you haven't tried it and still crave pizza. It's WW.
I can 1000% relate to this. 2 years ago I lost 100 lbs, I have gained back 30 lbs. it is making me crazy!! And to be more transparent I have at least another 100 or more pounds to go.
When I lost that weight I made myself eat like a skinny person. One of my tips I found on line is start by cutting it all in half and boxing it up to go before you take a single bite. Then eat slow, with purpose and stop when you are full. Do not feel guilt if you leave 1/2 of the 1/2 there, it’s about your success and self love. This was such a hard concept for me to invest in but it paid off.
I am continually failing myself this time but I keep getting up everyday and starting again. So thank you to everyone sharing their success, struggles, all of it helps remind me we are in this together. #iamfat #iwanttobeskinny
Everyday. Start again. This is my motto too😊😙
I’d love to go more in-depth too! The last couple of time we’ve went to my in-laws house, we haven’t shared a meal 🤯🤯 Growing up, food was the center of all get togethers, celebrations, shared time together. Trying to get out of the mindset is so hard, but freeing.
I’ve been trying to plan ahead my meals, but today for lunch - plan A and plan b didn’t work out so I grab fast food on my way back to work. Old habits are so hard to break! But part of what I’m learning is one bad meal isn’t a reason to throw in the towel for the rest of the day. Fast food for lunch means a salad and apple for dinner.
Everything you write has been hitting me right in the heart. Thank you for being so open and honest!
I would love to go more in depth too. Food is my comfort, my reward, my counselor, my best friend. It has to stop. I had a rough January and planned to start my New Years Resolutions February. Now February isn't looking too good either.
Thanks for bringing up the hard stuff. I just joined this group and it is already empowering and encouraging me!!! I have found that the discipline of fasting for 14-18 hours (IF) about 4-5 days per week has been amazing with portion control. You literally cannot eat as much at meals and have sooo much energy. Have to stay busy and drink water but wow, it works! Did the Daniel plan years ago with a group and I’m thinking of starting again for the food plan , and adding the intermittent fasting. So happy for you ... the determination and appreciate you sharing your tips and successes!!
How would IF and Daniels fasting work together???
Great question! I really don’t have a good answer cause I haven’t done it but I think if I could eat the food plan from The Daniel plan and stay within the fasting window it may work for me. I just KNOW fasting works for my hormone/insulin issues but I’m not a fan of keto, which is what is mostly used with fasting. I feel like I’m constantly trying to figure it out. After years of dieting the struggle continues. But there is hope!!🙌🏼 Have you ever done IF Lori?
And I can’t do keto either
I’m trying IF right now. I feel so much better if I don’t eat right away in the day. Im like you! Still trying to figure this out!
I find that the more consistent I am with IF the easier it gets! And then when I do eat I can’t eat as much and tend to make healthier choices! If you research fasting, it’s healing in so many ways! I’m going to get the Daniel book out and refresh myself on the foods!
I've been doing IF for awhile now, but definitely need to be more mindful of the food I eat when my window is open. It has actually given me so much freedom... when my window is open I eat, and when it's closed I don't. If I have a 'grey area' I turn into the QUEEN of justification, and that never ends well! Many of the books I have read on IF recommend LC/HF (Low Carb/High Fat) without going completely keto, and to be honest that worked really well for me and I need to lean back in that direction (and do something about my sugar addiction!) But it seems like a meal plan from the Daniel Fast would be the perfect companion to IF! Also, I'd recommend pushing your 'fasting muscle' to see if you can push yourself a little further each week and build up to some longer fasts which have great benefits too.
I recently just lost 100 pounds. I am the same way. It's all in my mind. I read a book called YOU CAN DROP IT. It is based of a lifestyle called the 2b Mindset. It's all about changing your mindset around food. Changed my life but I do still struggle with the all or nothing part of eating. If I have a cookie one day I feel like I need to make the whole day a "treat day", instead of just having a small treat and moving on with the rest of day. So right now I allow myself a Treat Day here and there. It is something I am working on. I would love to be able to maybe have a bite of something "sinful and still be able to be on track the rest of the day, but I'm not there yet...
Wow! Congratulations! That’s amazing. Sounds like that book has great motivation... it’s definitely the mindset. One bite doesn’t have to ruin the whole day. Just have to get out of our heads🙃
I read a book by Fiona Ferris recently and she talked about not denying yourself foods but adding in things. For example she added - piece of fruit at breakfast until she now eats a bowl of fruit with a side of yogurt instead of a bowl of yogurt with a side of fruit. She added in a side salad at lunch until finally months later her salad was the lunch. I really liked the idea of that mindset. I hate salads so I just try to add a vegetable at every meal and it is just so much more positive than me trying to deny that I really want a few French fries. Tiny mindset shifts are so important to drastic life changes. You have to do what you know works for you and be confident in that. She also discusses how our palates have to change and that takes time.
First off Thankyou again for writing what so many of us feel!! We are in this together a s it’s Very evident from many of us with the same comments and feelings. Food is not a reward blog and this one have been tough for me ... I’ve decided that’s my thing.. yes I have feelings I have been working through but reading these 2 so far are a gut punch!!! Dang Food !! It’s so tough to get away from it, you can’t just never eat food again and get over the addiction, it’s always around , haunting me, calling me, killing me!!!! When you said eat like a skinny person .... I cursed OUT LOuD lol I would love to meet 1 person who has a good relationship with food because where I’m standing currently skinny, fat, we all have food issues / body issues and I wish I could talk to someone who didn’t! I mean I have plenty of friends who don’t have drinking problems and we have been there for our friend who does. It’s easy to hang with us because there’s never drinks and we talk through what not drinking is like. Food, lol nope never have I known one person who thinks good things about food, or normally about food. So if your out there girls please help me! I need to know/ talk to people who have a no issue with food and what that’s looks like, what does that mean. What goes through your brain!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My DOC is food. It has been since childhood. I have lost and gained hundreds of pounds. Last year I had Covid and was hospitalized. I missed work for almost 6 months. Return to work,doing ok. I am even working overtime. October 16 I get weak at work. I’m light headed. See PCP, she’s not sure what’s going on. Bp higher than usual, I am so tired. My heart rate is low, what’s wrong with me. I make it through Saturday. By Sunday morning I can’t move my left leg. I think I’ve probably had a stroke. That’s exactly what’s happened. Off work for four months. Going back 3/1. I’m heavier than I’ve ever been and I’m on 3 blood pressure meds. Time for a change and I stumble upon stretch marks. Count me in Sis!
My DOC is food. It has been since childhood. I have lost and gained hundreds of pounds. Last year I had Covid and was hospitalized. I missed work for almost 6 months. Return to work,doing ok. I am even working overtime. October 16 I get weak at work. I’m light headed. See PCP, she’s not sure what’s going on. Bp higher than usual, I am so tired. My heart rate is low, what’s wrong with me. I make it through Saturday. By Sunday morning I can’t move my left leg. I think I’ve probably had a stroke. Trap that’s exactly what’s happened. Off work for four months. Going back 3/1. I’m heavier than I’ve ever been and I’m on 3 blood pressure meds. Time for a change and I stumble upon stretch marks. Count me in Sis!
I just joined the group tonight! My best friend and I are starting weight watchers next week. Years ago when I stressed I didn’t eat. Well honey that’s long gone! My drug of choice is food! I eat when I’m happy, sad stressed! Everyone says you quit smoking over ten years ago and you had been a smoker for 30 years! You can lose weight! Yes I smoked for 30 years, BUT I’ve eaten all my life!!!! But I have heal problems and it’s either change your habits or your life is going down hill like a roll a coaster with no brakes😱.
I do this every time we go anywhere if we know we are going to eat out. It's best to plan ahead and it's not to say that I don't always make the best choices, but I do try. You can always make good choices and not beat yourself up for the slip ups.
I am so happy that you came into my life Melissa! What you write is actually my new “Bible” if you will...My daughters and I have been through a nonstop nightmare since August of 2019 and every time we think it’s getting better, hear comes another curveball to try and destroy us. From husband/father abandonment leaving us with literally nothing to my MS diagnosis, Diabetes type 2, the whole Covid-19 thing and my most recent diagnosis of breast cancer and having to have a radical bilateral mastectomy. IKR!!?! Listening to you speak and reading what you write actually calms me and centers me. You help me to remember that no matter what happens I am a strong woman and I try to show that lesson to my girls every single day! God Bless you and your journey and I hope I am lucky enough to actually meet you in person some day! 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
More in depth would be amazing! Thank you for walking along with us all on this journey. We are in this together!
How did you handle the taco chips and salsa at the Mexican restaurant????😩
Hi Melissa. I live in Oregon. There is a Cheesecake Factory in this town. I can’t find much of a thing to eat there. My humble opinion is that we should drive right by. If more of us do this maybe they will go far away. Like Antarctica! I love fried chicken, too. And in fact anything fried. It triggers me also. Nobody should eat that stuff with any regularity. It will just kill you. And make you dreadfully overweight. In the meantime I don’t ever go there. Even if I have to give up my night out. ❤️🙏 My admiration goes out to you.
Mexican! Where there are chips and dips everywhere???? Mexican is my weakness. Shrimp and Fish tacos are the best thing ever. When I first heard of them, many moons ago, I was like, "gag me"...but then I tried them and OMGosh!!! It's my "almost" favorite Mexican mean. I'm a fajitas, kinda girl. I get chicken and no tortillas. It's like eating the topping off pizza, no crust (I don't do this, though). Speaking of pizza, there is a 2 ingredient crust for pizza, if you haven't tried it and still crave pizza. It's WW.