I had an interesting thing happen to me last week, and I feel like the Stretch Marks community was a great place to bring this up and maybe even talk about it. If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, then you maybe saw where last week I posted an announcement. To many, it looks - at first glance - a divorce announcement. Now, if you read it closely you will note that divorce was never mentioned one single time. But it was one of those “official statements” that couples who are parting company tend to put out. We have seen it on the Internet, we have seen it in People Magazine, we have seen it an US Magazine…so yeah, we know the drill.
I am so sick of this ever-offended world we live in now! Somewhere there is a company who HAS TO BE paying people to scour the internet, looking for things to be offended over! I just know it!
But, get this Melissa...years ago there also entered a faction of people that you had to apologize to if you had GOOD NEWS!
If you were getting married, you had to apologize to all the people who hadn't been proposed to yet.
If you were pregnant, you had to apologize to all who can't, won't, didn't get pregnant yet.
If you bought a dog you had to apologize to all who are allergic.
This is when I started to realize that we live in a society who get their panties in a knot about every dang thing there is to possibly get upset about.
It's almost like living in a daycare 24/7! Toddlers whining about what the other kids have.
Oh, and I forgot...you can't say you went on vacation or bought your kids Christmas gifts either, because those who can't afford trips or gifts will get mad.
Let me just say. When I started reading it, I was shocked. I was like what no, please say it isn't so. If they can be getting a divorce anyone can. They seem so happy; how can this be happening. All these thoughts were going through my head. As I continued to read, I was like she is killing me. And I laughed as I continued to read it. I'm not sure why people are offended or feel any other way, it was as funny as it was meant to be.
People just need to get a life. I did a post last week about my daughter and her boyfriend about how we were going to be grandparents. Me thanking them and celebrating with them, lord, she even had a drink in her hand in the picture. Well, this child in particular is not ever going to have children and our friends and family know it. But my post about our new grand child freaked some out - I had to go back and edit it to say, it was a puppy not a real grandchild. My daughter and her boyfriend laughed hilariously when we presented them with a gift bag full of dog toys at the restaurant. If you can’t have a sense of humor in this world you will never be happy. I called my daughter and ask, should I take the post down, she said no way! It was funny! Melissa, I get your humor and I love it! Don’t ever change. If others don’t get it they are following the wrong person.
I am so tired of "if you don't think like me, you are bad" mentality. "If you don't agree with me, I am going to throw a tantrum and tattle on you..." Isn't it time people GREW UP and ACTED like ADULTS and played NICE?????
I’m one of the ones that replied to your post that has gone through a horrible divorce and thought you were hysterical. I totally agree with you! I’m so tired of people having to shut down others that don’t think the same way. I work remotely from home and just about an hour ago I was on a very long zoom call with a team member. After discuss what we had to about the current project, we started talking about what state we live in, little things about us (we’ve worked together for over a year but haven’t ever met in person we don’t know a lot about each other and since we live on opposite sides of the country we have a lot to learn about each other). I could tell very quickly that she and I have very different views politically, fundamental beliefs, etc. But, we can turn the conversation onto a safer path for both of us…talking about the weather and what states we would like to visit…and we can go on having a great working relationship. I don’t need her to think the way I do!
Absolutely agree, Melissa. My heart broke as I read the first part of your fb post...but then, when I got to the vacuum part...I died laughing. Those 2%ers need to learn how to have a conversation without getting their "panties in a wad."
I had a similar situation on a comment on someone's post about a yard that looked like an accident waiting to happen that I made on our NextDoor neighborhood app. Another person came and attacked me for talking about HOA neighborhoods vs Non-HOA neighborhoods rules and how we shouldn't care about what other people do in their yards in neighborhood subdivisions.
I didn't cut anyone down. But she found a typo on top of what I had typed out and in BOLD LETTERS called me out on it. I didn't counter attack, I just simply said, "Thank you for catching my typo and I hope you have a terrific evening." Then, I proceeded to correct, said-typo, and went on. I left it up for all to see. It was funny the number of people who came to my defense and said that they didn't see the typo! Ha! I have no problem being called out when I am wrong. But, she clearly was out for blood. It was sad.
I'm thankful for this community. This is one of the reasons I joined. The ability to laugh in a world where some have completely lost that ability or never had it. Keep it up, girlfriend.
Who in HELL would honestly think that anyone with any amount of decency, class, self-respect, whatever you wish to call it, would get on Facebook and shout, "Hey world, we (David and I) are getting divorced!!!" People are just stupid. You don't need our reassurances. You know that person was an idiot, and I am sure there were quite a few of those of those people amid all those comments. We see posts nearly every single day that mislead us all the way to the end, where the punchline is dropped and we realize we fell for it. We just can't reply to those posts because the author is rarely revealed. When people see your name tied to the post, they automatically think that gives them a right to share their narrow-minded opinions! I could go on, but I am going to stop right here because what I was about to say next would have a lot of people replying to ME about how wrong I am!
I have to say when I seen this comment, I rolled my eyes and continued on. Solely based because this year, different areas of my life. I have had been asking myself things you quoted word for word”
And maybe it makes me realize how naïve I am.
To think that we could all sit together, eat together, break bread together, share a space together, search out common ground …well, call me child-like, call me naïve, just make sure you call me sad.
THIS right here! This is how I feel about so much about life and people! Like okay so we don’t all agree on so much. But how old are we??? How many things do we not agree on but does that mean we don’t love or be kind the the person to the left or right??
It happened when a man who none of us voted into office, somehow gained more control/power then the President. Since when has America ever allowed a dictator like Dr Fauci rule our lives? This is spiritual warfare… A man who does not believe in God at all..is quoted as saying “I think that there are a lot of things about organized religion that are unfortunate, and I tend to like to stay away from” who’s tagline is:
I am very much like you in that I think I can have different likes or beliefs than others and guess what.... We are all going to be OK! I think it is nice to be with people who have different views, I just want them to value kindness and respect. I am unfortunately connected to many people that think their way is the only way and if you don't believe what they believe you are an idiot (not in the endearing way!). I have to choose to distance myself from them as much as I can because judgement and self-righteousness drive me insane. I don't get it and I refuse to get it. I am quite often a brat and will therefore say something contrary to their beliefs or not 100% compliant with what they are saying just to be that way. I also come down very hard on my daughters if they start to act/think that way. No ma'am! Nope! Realign with reality, God made us different and thank goodness He did, we respect God's creation. If we are not happy with what is happening, we can quietly distance ourselves from that thing, but not take down others. It's gross. When push comes to shove, I will fiercely protect and stand up for others - but I will stay respectful and this only happens when I see people attacking or hurting someone.
I agree with you. When did we become a society of the overly offended hurt feelings club. What are we teaching out children and grandchildren. It really amou to to bullying. If you don't think or feel thr way I do I humiliate you into it. How is this okay?
I am so sick of this ever-offended world we live in now! Somewhere there is a company who HAS TO BE paying people to scour the internet, looking for things to be offended over! I just know it!
But, get this Melissa...years ago there also entered a faction of people that you had to apologize to if you had GOOD NEWS!
If you were getting married, you had to apologize to all the people who hadn't been proposed to yet.
If you were pregnant, you had to apologize to all who can't, won't, didn't get pregnant yet.
If you bought a dog you had to apologize to all who are allergic.
This is when I started to realize that we live in a society who get their panties in a knot about every dang thing there is to possibly get upset about.
It's almost like living in a daycare 24/7! Toddlers whining about what the other kids have.
Oh, and I forgot...you can't say you went on vacation or bought your kids Christmas gifts either, because those who can't afford trips or gifts will get mad.
Ok, I'm done.
If you can't tell, I'm with ya on this!
Happy vacuuming!
Melissa,
Let me just say. When I started reading it, I was shocked. I was like what no, please say it isn't so. If they can be getting a divorce anyone can. They seem so happy; how can this be happening. All these thoughts were going through my head. As I continued to read, I was like she is killing me. And I laughed as I continued to read it. I'm not sure why people are offended or feel any other way, it was as funny as it was meant to be.
Block all the cranky people.
Keep bringing joy to the rest of us.
As my mom always used to say, if you're gonna be a TURD go lay in the yard!
OHHHH, I like that!!! Definitely gonna steal it & USE it!!
People just need to get a life. I did a post last week about my daughter and her boyfriend about how we were going to be grandparents. Me thanking them and celebrating with them, lord, she even had a drink in her hand in the picture. Well, this child in particular is not ever going to have children and our friends and family know it. But my post about our new grand child freaked some out - I had to go back and edit it to say, it was a puppy not a real grandchild. My daughter and her boyfriend laughed hilariously when we presented them with a gift bag full of dog toys at the restaurant. If you can’t have a sense of humor in this world you will never be happy. I called my daughter and ask, should I take the post down, she said no way! It was funny! Melissa, I get your humor and I love it! Don’t ever change. If others don’t get it they are following the wrong person.
LOVE IT....that GRANDPUPPY is just as important, right now.
people are such babies
I am so tired of "if you don't think like me, you are bad" mentality. "If you don't agree with me, I am going to throw a tantrum and tattle on you..." Isn't it time people GREW UP and ACTED like ADULTS and played NICE?????
I’m one of the ones that replied to your post that has gone through a horrible divorce and thought you were hysterical. I totally agree with you! I’m so tired of people having to shut down others that don’t think the same way. I work remotely from home and just about an hour ago I was on a very long zoom call with a team member. After discuss what we had to about the current project, we started talking about what state we live in, little things about us (we’ve worked together for over a year but haven’t ever met in person we don’t know a lot about each other and since we live on opposite sides of the country we have a lot to learn about each other). I could tell very quickly that she and I have very different views politically, fundamental beliefs, etc. But, we can turn the conversation onto a safer path for both of us…talking about the weather and what states we would like to visit…and we can go on having a great working relationship. I don’t need her to think the way I do!
I just have 1 word for you ... AMEN SISTER!!! .... OK 2 words
Absolutely agree, Melissa. My heart broke as I read the first part of your fb post...but then, when I got to the vacuum part...I died laughing. Those 2%ers need to learn how to have a conversation without getting their "panties in a wad."
I had a similar situation on a comment on someone's post about a yard that looked like an accident waiting to happen that I made on our NextDoor neighborhood app. Another person came and attacked me for talking about HOA neighborhoods vs Non-HOA neighborhoods rules and how we shouldn't care about what other people do in their yards in neighborhood subdivisions.
I didn't cut anyone down. But she found a typo on top of what I had typed out and in BOLD LETTERS called me out on it. I didn't counter attack, I just simply said, "Thank you for catching my typo and I hope you have a terrific evening." Then, I proceeded to correct, said-typo, and went on. I left it up for all to see. It was funny the number of people who came to my defense and said that they didn't see the typo! Ha! I have no problem being called out when I am wrong. But, she clearly was out for blood. It was sad.
I'm thankful for this community. This is one of the reasons I joined. The ability to laugh in a world where some have completely lost that ability or never had it. Keep it up, girlfriend.
Who in HELL would honestly think that anyone with any amount of decency, class, self-respect, whatever you wish to call it, would get on Facebook and shout, "Hey world, we (David and I) are getting divorced!!!" People are just stupid. You don't need our reassurances. You know that person was an idiot, and I am sure there were quite a few of those of those people amid all those comments. We see posts nearly every single day that mislead us all the way to the end, where the punchline is dropped and we realize we fell for it. We just can't reply to those posts because the author is rarely revealed. When people see your name tied to the post, they automatically think that gives them a right to share their narrow-minded opinions! I could go on, but I am going to stop right here because what I was about to say next would have a lot of people replying to ME about how wrong I am!
I’m so sick of the word Offended!!!!
I have to say when I seen this comment, I rolled my eyes and continued on. Solely based because this year, different areas of my life. I have had been asking myself things you quoted word for word”
And maybe it makes me realize how naïve I am.
To think that we could all sit together, eat together, break bread together, share a space together, search out common ground …well, call me child-like, call me naïve, just make sure you call me sad.
THIS right here! This is how I feel about so much about life and people! Like okay so we don’t all agree on so much. But how old are we??? How many things do we not agree on but does that mean we don’t love or be kind the the person to the left or right??
Much love Melissa, keep doing you 💛
Why can’t we all just get alonnnng (whining voice)???
It happened when a man who none of us voted into office, somehow gained more control/power then the President. Since when has America ever allowed a dictator like Dr Fauci rule our lives? This is spiritual warfare… A man who does not believe in God at all..is quoted as saying “I think that there are a lot of things about organized religion that are unfortunate, and I tend to like to stay away from” who’s tagline is:
“Our tagline is ‘we’re good without a god,’”
We are battling those who deal in witchcraft
I am very much like you in that I think I can have different likes or beliefs than others and guess what.... We are all going to be OK! I think it is nice to be with people who have different views, I just want them to value kindness and respect. I am unfortunately connected to many people that think their way is the only way and if you don't believe what they believe you are an idiot (not in the endearing way!). I have to choose to distance myself from them as much as I can because judgement and self-righteousness drive me insane. I don't get it and I refuse to get it. I am quite often a brat and will therefore say something contrary to their beliefs or not 100% compliant with what they are saying just to be that way. I also come down very hard on my daughters if they start to act/think that way. No ma'am! Nope! Realign with reality, God made us different and thank goodness He did, we respect God's creation. If we are not happy with what is happening, we can quietly distance ourselves from that thing, but not take down others. It's gross. When push comes to shove, I will fiercely protect and stand up for others - but I will stay respectful and this only happens when I see people attacking or hurting someone.
I agree with you. When did we become a society of the overly offended hurt feelings club. What are we teaching out children and grandchildren. It really amou to to bullying. If you don't think or feel thr way I do I humiliate you into it. How is this okay?
Amen!!!! And I don't to church! But preach!