It feels “wrong” for me to grieve a long-lived life, but December is tricky bc we lost our 90 year old dad to a massive stroke 12/26/22, and essentially lost our mom the same day. She’s never been the same. She turned 90 Saturday, and today I’m sitting beside her hospital bed wondering if she will see Christmas this year. I guess I’d ask Jesus why He didn’t take her then, too. She’s been so miserable and lost and would be so much happier in heaven. And I would thank Him for the grace He gives just when we need it. Every time.
I’m sorry about your sweet boy. He is well loved, even now 💙. Thank you for giving us a space to feel.
Grieving the loss of my mom who was also my best friend and the one constant in my life I shared and told everything to. I lost her October 11, 2023 out of the blue to an infection. My family was and still are utterly devastated. We grieve in our own way all year but at this time of year is the hardest. Thank you for your prayers and thoughtful words of support. We all need them. So with that I love you and am here praying for you and your family also.
December 16, 1999 We lost our baby girl. She had fought for 7 months in utero, but it was time. So thankful we didn't know that we would walk that path 2 more times in the next 3 years! I love Christmas & have 2 adult daughters, sons in laws and a 2 year old grandson so it's a happy time, but there's always some tenderness this time of year as I think of what ages my other children would be, what they would be like, etc. Emotions are wild & I'm glad we can hold joy & grief at the same time. Praying for you to receive comfort & joy at this time of year especially!
Wow… at Christmas all those losses come to the surface. My husband passed in 2020 of ALS and would love to be in midst of it all. My dear mother died very unexpectedly 2 days after Christmas in 1997 and my brother died in 2010. I miss them all very much. But another grief is my divorce which erased so many great Christmas memories. It’s a hard time to not be caught up in a web of memories and what ifs. Thank you for bringing grief to the forefront and sharing yours. Hugs to all of us.
Grieving the loss of my mom - this is the 2nd Christmas without her and it hurts more than the 1st. Grieving a 15+ year rift in our family that feels like it will never be healed. Worried for my son-in-law who just got deployed to Syria for 9 months.
Grieving my husband who passed Feb 2012. I wonder if he still loves me and if he is ever present with me. Will God allow us to be together in the eternities?
My mom died in April. She had breast cancer. It was a traumatizing experience seeing the strong woman I absolutely adored shrivel away into skin on bones crying out to God “Why haven’t you taken me?” She was a very devote Catholic. A role model, my compass, my best friend, my everything. I still go to call her at times and then remember. I have such a deep ache in my heart. I feel lost. It’s like did life ever exist now that she’s gone? I miss her terribly. Her touch. Her hugs. Her smell. Her laughter. Her smile. Her advice. Her voice. I am sorry for the loss of your son Mel. Death is so final.
I’m so sorry about the loss of your son. I know you will see him again one day as I will see my parents again. But like you I am in pain. I lost my beloved mom who was my everything December 29,2022 and had lost my wonderful father April 20, 2020. Lost him sooner than that to dementia. It has been devastating to not have them. Thank you.
Grieving my Mom and my Mother-in-Law. We lost them last fall within 3 months of each other. Last December we were just in shock but this December is just plain hard.
I totally understand the Seasons Grieving. I had 11 miscarriages and every year, I wonder the same things about them. I know I will meet them one day, but I miss them now. I have 3 grown sons and am blessed with them and 6 grandchildren. But a year and a half ago, I lost my sweet momma. Within a month of her passing, I also lost two aunts, my uncle, and a close friend of 45 years. Then, this past 6 weeks. I lost my Father. He was 99 and I am so grateful that we could have so many years together, but I still miss him. He has always been there. I also lost 7 other people in these 6 weeks. Cousins, friends, and children of friends. It's a lot of loss. I am trying to remind myself how grateful I am to have had each of them in my life for whatever period of time I was given. My dad, I had for so many years! But during the holiday, it is so hard not to wish I could see them around the tree, with the family. I know they are with us in our hearts, I just really miss them. The weird thing is that now WE are the family elders! My family is in trouble if they are looking to me for wisdom!! I can give them love, compassion, and prayers. I pray that each of you finds a way to keep your loved ones close during this holiday season. I am praying for peace and comfort for all of us.
Maybe it’s just me, but when you write about grief, I think it’s some of your best work. Keep doing this hard work. We need it.
It feels “wrong” for me to grieve a long-lived life, but December is tricky bc we lost our 90 year old dad to a massive stroke 12/26/22, and essentially lost our mom the same day. She’s never been the same. She turned 90 Saturday, and today I’m sitting beside her hospital bed wondering if she will see Christmas this year. I guess I’d ask Jesus why He didn’t take her then, too. She’s been so miserable and lost and would be so much happier in heaven. And I would thank Him for the grace He gives just when we need it. Every time.
I’m sorry about your sweet boy. He is well loved, even now 💙. Thank you for giving us a space to feel.
I simply love you, Miss Melissa.
Grieving the loss of my mom who was also my best friend and the one constant in my life I shared and told everything to. I lost her October 11, 2023 out of the blue to an infection. My family was and still are utterly devastated. We grieve in our own way all year but at this time of year is the hardest. Thank you for your prayers and thoughtful words of support. We all need them. So with that I love you and am here praying for you and your family also.
December 16, 1999 We lost our baby girl. She had fought for 7 months in utero, but it was time. So thankful we didn't know that we would walk that path 2 more times in the next 3 years! I love Christmas & have 2 adult daughters, sons in laws and a 2 year old grandson so it's a happy time, but there's always some tenderness this time of year as I think of what ages my other children would be, what they would be like, etc. Emotions are wild & I'm glad we can hold joy & grief at the same time. Praying for you to receive comfort & joy at this time of year especially!
Wow… at Christmas all those losses come to the surface. My husband passed in 2020 of ALS and would love to be in midst of it all. My dear mother died very unexpectedly 2 days after Christmas in 1997 and my brother died in 2010. I miss them all very much. But another grief is my divorce which erased so many great Christmas memories. It’s a hard time to not be caught up in a web of memories and what ifs. Thank you for bringing grief to the forefront and sharing yours. Hugs to all of us.
Grieving the loss of my mom - this is the 2nd Christmas without her and it hurts more than the 1st. Grieving a 15+ year rift in our family that feels like it will never be healed. Worried for my son-in-law who just got deployed to Syria for 9 months.
My mom died 11/23/24 from a massive heart attack, but she had been battling dementia for 3 years. We buried her yesterday.
Grieving my husband who passed Feb 2012. I wonder if he still loves me and if he is ever present with me. Will God allow us to be together in the eternities?
My mom died in April. She had breast cancer. It was a traumatizing experience seeing the strong woman I absolutely adored shrivel away into skin on bones crying out to God “Why haven’t you taken me?” She was a very devote Catholic. A role model, my compass, my best friend, my everything. I still go to call her at times and then remember. I have such a deep ache in my heart. I feel lost. It’s like did life ever exist now that she’s gone? I miss her terribly. Her touch. Her hugs. Her smell. Her laughter. Her smile. Her advice. Her voice. I am sorry for the loss of your son Mel. Death is so final.
I grieve the son I put up for adoption. My heart has a piece missing and it aches especially around holidays.
I am grieving the loss we have in our family due to addiction. The hopes and dreams that are lost. We have had some very difficult Christmas’s.
I’m so sorry about the loss of your son. I know you will see him again one day as I will see my parents again. But like you I am in pain. I lost my beloved mom who was my everything December 29,2022 and had lost my wonderful father April 20, 2020. Lost him sooner than that to dementia. It has been devastating to not have them. Thank you.
Grieving the loss of my mom who passed July 2023 & my daddy who passed July 2005. Feeling like an orphan at the age of 54.
I lost my mom in 2023 and my dad in 2016 - I feel like an orphan at age 60 - so I totally totally get it. Big hugs to you.
Grieving my Mom and my Mother-in-Law. We lost them last fall within 3 months of each other. Last December we were just in shock but this December is just plain hard.
I totally understand the Seasons Grieving. I had 11 miscarriages and every year, I wonder the same things about them. I know I will meet them one day, but I miss them now. I have 3 grown sons and am blessed with them and 6 grandchildren. But a year and a half ago, I lost my sweet momma. Within a month of her passing, I also lost two aunts, my uncle, and a close friend of 45 years. Then, this past 6 weeks. I lost my Father. He was 99 and I am so grateful that we could have so many years together, but I still miss him. He has always been there. I also lost 7 other people in these 6 weeks. Cousins, friends, and children of friends. It's a lot of loss. I am trying to remind myself how grateful I am to have had each of them in my life for whatever period of time I was given. My dad, I had for so many years! But during the holiday, it is so hard not to wish I could see them around the tree, with the family. I know they are with us in our hearts, I just really miss them. The weird thing is that now WE are the family elders! My family is in trouble if they are looking to me for wisdom!! I can give them love, compassion, and prayers. I pray that each of you finds a way to keep your loved ones close during this holiday season. I am praying for peace and comfort for all of us.