Am I Rude?? This morning on our Rise & Radke morning show, the Radke Family membership community was helping me out with an etiquette question that I had. I’ll ask you the question that I asked them… I was invited to a dinner party. I asked the host what I could bring, and she told me “Absolutely nothing,” but I am from the South and it is in my blood to bring something. I brought a chocolate cake that I had bought at a local bakery. When the night is over, if there is over half a cake left, do I leave it or take it back home?
Ok so in an etiquette class I took in High School (now that may have been a very long time ago) we were told that if you bring a cake on or in your own pan or cake plate you leave it weather there is cake left or not. You are not to rush the host to cover or clean the said item. But her etiquette is to bring the pan or cake plate back to you full ie... a cake for you.
I knew all these things but, like you Melissa, don't always adhere to the rules. I hate transporting food, so flowers and wine are so much easier. Did you know that how you place your silverware when you are finished eating signals to the wait staff whether or not you are done? Place your knife and fork together in the centre of the plate, pointing to twelve o'clock. This will indicate to your waiter that you have finished. It is okay to place it pointing any position on the plate as long as the utensils are parallel to each other. I have also heard the silverware should be placed in a 4 20 position, but I think that's just some stoner's idea.
I always leave the cake unless it is a potluck, where everyone brings a dish. And even then I offer what is left to the hostess. True you do not cut up your entire meal, that is low class (apparently) Yes your napkin does go in your seat, you just have to remember to get it before sitting down. I am a crafter and design all sorts of things. I usually make something one of a kind for the hostess.
Ok so in an etiquette class I took in High School (now that may have been a very long time ago) we were told that if you bring a cake on or in your own pan or cake plate you leave it weather there is cake left or not. You are not to rush the host to cover or clean the said item. But her etiquette is to bring the pan or cake plate back to you full ie... a cake for you.
I knew all these things but, like you Melissa, don't always adhere to the rules. I hate transporting food, so flowers and wine are so much easier. Did you know that how you place your silverware when you are finished eating signals to the wait staff whether or not you are done? Place your knife and fork together in the centre of the plate, pointing to twelve o'clock. This will indicate to your waiter that you have finished. It is okay to place it pointing any position on the plate as long as the utensils are parallel to each other. I have also heard the silverware should be placed in a 4 20 position, but I think that's just some stoner's idea.
I always leave the cake unless it is a potluck, where everyone brings a dish. And even then I offer what is left to the hostess. True you do not cut up your entire meal, that is low class (apparently) Yes your napkin does go in your seat, you just have to remember to get it before sitting down. I am a crafter and design all sorts of things. I usually make something one of a kind for the hostess.
Oh Dang !
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